How vs What

It is interesting to learn that sometimes HOW we say it, is more important than WHAT we say. People easily misunderstand our good intention. And if you are not careful, other people could simply focus on 'the way you say it' and then got upset with you. This called communication breakdown. If you break the rule of communication then you will get down on your knees to ask for forgiveness. So if you are not sure how to say things, don't say it. Bite your tongue if you need to. Whatever it is, its not worth it than to upset your love one.